Wedding Traditions and Superstitions

Its has been quite a busy wedding season for Bish Bosh Becca. So it got me thinking about the traditions we all know and some we don’t, well at least I didn’t!

Lets start with the most well known: ‘Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue and a silver sixpence in your shoe’ is a Victorian tradition that is now a rhyme we all

know.

something blue wedding jewellery set for a bride
a beautiful crystal pendant necklace and matching drop earrings, with a blue topaz teardrop for a brides something blue

Something old represents the link with the bride’s family and the past. A common solution used to be that brides choose is to wear a piece of family jewellery or their mother’s or grandmother’s wedding dress.

Something new represents good fortune and success in the bride’s new life. The wedding dress is often chosen as the new item.

Something borrowed to remind the bride that friends and family will be there for her when help is needed. The borrowed object might be something such as a lace handkerchief or an item of jewellery.

Something blue symbolises faithfulness and loyalty and dates back to biblical times when blue represented purity.

A Silver Sixpence in her Shoe is to wish the bride wealth, both financial and happiness.

There are also lots of supersitions round jewellery and gemstones. The 2 most common are

Aquamarine gemstone bracelet with a Pisces zodiac charm
Beautiful blue aquamarine gemstone bracelet finished with a silver pisces star sign charm

 Aquamarine stones are thought to ensure a long, happy marriage

modern pearl necklace for a bride
a unqiue modern white pearl necklace on silver chain for a bride on her wedding day

A pearl engagement ring is supposed to be bad luck because the shape resembles a tear. However, to others, the wearing of pearls takes the place of the bride’s real tears, thus she’ll have a happy, tear-free wedded life. I like the second one but then I love pearls

The veil is meant to symbolise the modesty and chastity of the bride. Ancient Greek and Roman tradition states that wearing a wedding veil helps to ward off evil spirits intent on cursing the bride, with a veil over her head they couldn’t see her, and so couldn’t curse her. Another explanation is that during the times of arranged marriages the bride’s face would be covered until the groom had committed to the marriage. Not so romantic that one!

Brides and their bridesmaids have always held floral bouquets, for their scent as much as their delicate beauty. Rosemary is said to signify remembrance for someone no longer here. Although the meaning of flowers is whole new blog in its own right.

The flower in the groom’s buttonhole goes back to the days when a knight would wear his Lady’s colours to display his love. The bride throws her bouquet backwards over her shoulder for the group of unmarried girls to catch. It is said that the girl who catches it will be the next to marry.

Modern white natural fireball pearl pendant for a bride
A modern white pearl wedding pendant for a bride on her wedding day

The tradition of throwing confetti over the bride and groom comes from Italy. Before paper confetti, there were flowers, petals, grain or rice thrown at the happy couple, to bestow prosperity and fertility. For my daughter wedding we dried flowers from the garden, luckily the cherry blossom was out when she announced her engagement! And for the record rice hurts!!

The cake is another tradition that originated with the Romans, though they shared a wedding cake during the ceremony itself – they couldn’t wait for the reception! Their cakes were flat and round, containing fruit and nuts to symbolise fertility. The shape of the modern three-tiered iced cake is generally thought to be inspired by the shape of the tiered spire at the aptly named St Bride’s Church in the City of London. If you have a fruit cake, traditionally you would keep the top tier for the christening of your first child. Don’t keep a sponge cake, it won’t last!

White pearl choker necklace and earrings set for a bride
modern pearl jewellery set for a bride on her wedding day

Another version is that, as a game, brides and grooms used to attempt to kiss over their wedding cake without knocking it over, which is how tiered wedding cakes emerged

The tradition of giving guests something to remember the day by in the form of favours has been around for hundreds of years. The tradition has evolved to giving each guest five sugar coated almonds to symbolise health, wealth, fertility, happiness and long-life. Now favours some in all shapes and sizes and are as unique as the bride herself.

A delicate cuff bracelet for a bride
handmade gemstone and pearl cuff bracelet for a bride to wear on her wedding day

In ancient cultures, the threshold of the home was considered to be a hotbed of lurking, unattached evil spirits, and since a new bride was particularly vulnerable to spirit intrusion, (especially through the soles of her feet!!) The groom would traditionally carry the bride over the threshold to make sure his wife didn’t bring any bad spirits into the house…

Every culture also has its own traditions;

Middle Eastern couple’s adorn themselves with beautiful Henna patterns on their hands and feet to protect themselves from the “evil eye”.

According to ancient Greek culture, if you tuck a sugar cube into your glove it will sweeten your union.

Italian tradition calls for newly married couples to smash glass at their wedding. However many pieces the glass breaks into is supposed to represent how many years they’ll be happily married.

According to Hindu tradition, rain on your wedding day is considered good luck.

In Christian ceremonies the bride stands to the groom’s left so the groom can fight off other suitors with his right hand

Finally, don’t worry about the black cat, stay away from the nuns and monks! It is said that if a bride crosses path with a monk or a nun on her wedding day, she will be

cursed with a life of infertility and poverty. Hum, well, I think we will take this one with a pinch of salt as I was married by a monk and had some lovely nuns at my wedding!

Star Signs of the Zodiac- Cancer

When I got thinking about restarting the blog, I thought I would start with the Zodiac star sign of Cancer. Well we have just moved into that star sign today.

Standard gift wrap for Bish Bosh Becca Jewellery Gifts
All Bish Bosh Becca jewellery is sent out gift wrapped free of charge, This is our July birthstone and Cancer zodiac gift wrap

If you have read any of our product descriptions you will know that I love the history and mythology behind gemstones. I hope you find this information as fascinating as I do. In fact I hope you love it as much as you love our Cancer and ruby jewellery!

Ruby gemstone bracelet with cancer star sign charm
ruby gemstone bracelet for those born under Cancer zodiac sign

Buckle up ‘cos I am starting with mythology

In Greek mythology the story of Cancer the Crab is said to be connected to Heracles, Some storytellers say that during Heracles’ fight with The Hydra, the goddess Hera sent a crab from a swamp to snap at Heracles’ toes because Hera had sworn to kill Heracles. (These Greek Gods and Goddesses could be quite vengeful!) Heracles was able to kill the crab by smashing its shell with his foot. As a reward for its efforts serving her, Hera placed the crab in the sky and it became Cancer.

In ancient times, Cancer was known as the “dark sign” because of the obscured visibility of its constellation in the night sky.

Cancer (♋️) is the fourth sign of the Zodiac for those born between the 21st June and 22nd July, ruby is their birthstone.

Silver Star necklace personalsied with ruby and Cancer zodaic charm for July
Create a beautiful star necklace with a ruby and cancer zodiac charm for a July birthday girl

It is a cardinal water sign. Represented by the crab, this oceanic crustacean seamlessly weaves between the sea and shore, representing Cancer’s ability to exist in both emotional and material realms. They are highly intuitive and highly sensitive to their environments, as well as extremely self-protective. Much like their celestial spirit animal, Cancerians are shielded by hard, external shells. At first, these crabs may be perceived as cold or distant. With time, though, Cancerians reveal their gentle nature, genuine compassion, and mystical capabilities. Just don’t be surprised if it takes a while to get to know them.

Personalised Cancer star sign necklace
A shiney silver letter charm with ruby and Cancer star sign charm, perfect for a July birthday gift

Cancer is ruled by the moon, the celestial body that represents comfort and maternal energies. Accordingly, Cancerians tend to be domestically oriented. They love to create cozy, safe spaces that serve as their personal sanctuaries, then spend lots of time in them. They care deeply about their families and are quick to adopt caregiver roles. Basically Cancerians are hard on the outside but all heart on the inside!

Silver heart necklace personalised with an initial charm, ruby birthstone and Cancer charm
A romantic birthday gift for someone born in July

Wedding preparations in full swing!

Only a few more sleeps to go and everyone will be gathered at the beautiful manor house in Petersfield to see Becca walk down the aisle and become Mrs Wells!

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What a fab summer celebration it’s going to be.  All preparations are well in hand – we’re a bit in the lull before the storm phase at the moment – a bit too early to do some things, and other things were done ages ago!  Well done to Becca for all her preparation work – she’s been working so hard on making sure everything is just perfect on her special day.  Grandma’s project is taking care of the flowers for the day, the bridal gown is all ready hanging up in the spare room, final numbers have been confirmed and bridesmaids and flower girls are raring to go!

Just in case Becca thought she might have a quiet few days before the wedding, Marcus has had other ideas, and they will be getting keys to their new home early next week – never a dull moment in Bish Bish Becca world!

Can’t show you many wedding-related photos yet, as we’re under strict confidentiality instructions, but here is a little peak at what SJ will be wearing …

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Many will not realise, but before embarking on her jewellery venture which is now Bish Bosh Becca, SJ had another creative business – making fascinators.  She will be wearing one of her designs, which you can see in the picture, she just needs to add some extra feathers, which you can see in the bottom left of the picture.  She is most pleased with her trotters for the day – think you’ll agree they’re pretty stunning!

Becca has chosen 3 bridesmaids and 4 little flower girls to help guide her through the day (and of course the night before the wedding!);  here is a little look at what the flower girls will be wearing …

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Beautiful lace bodice with net skirts and aquamarine sashes …  four little blondies are going to look beautiful!

The bridesmaids are also in aquamarine with silver shoes – look at these beauties that Becca’s cousin Cheski has chosen to go with her dress …

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… taking a pair of alternatives for the evening dancing obviously!

Can’t wait to show you the jewellery and all the finer details after the event; we hope the sun shines on the day so that the wedding ceremony can take place outside but most of all everyone at BBB wishes Becca and Marcus a very happy day and lots of love for a long and very happy life together.